Fight the Frump- Baby fat & blogging butt!

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I have a problem. Not the mold (hey, we move home this weekend!), not my ongoing war with the laundry pile, this is serious. I have a problem. It is a double whammy of trouble- baby fat & blogging butt.

That is right. I have left over baby fat from having bebe #5 in May, combined with a bad case of blogger butt. Apparently me wishing the pounds away is not working. Ignoring the problem seems not to be paying off.

During the day I try to eat healthily, but then the evenings... Yeah, you know where this is going... hubs pulls out the chips, the boys eat Hershey's kisses and I pour that lovely glass of red wine. My problem with wine isn't the calories, it is that after I have a glass, I'm all happy go lucky & the world is fabulous. I do not care that those chips & chocolate are bad for me.

So, it's up to you, I need to drop some serious poundage. Tell me how you do it? I need your tips, tricks and secrets.

Do not tell me to join a gym & here is why- the baby gets sick from nursery & they never have childcare for school age kids during the day. Plus, I can't drop any coin on a membership right now.

Also, can you not suggest eating less & exercising more? That is really boring and I won't do it. I know, I live with me.

Share your thoughts. Do you have weight troubles, too? How do you manage it. What do you recommend eating? And OK, just for the funny factor, what do you recommend doing for exercise with the 5 boys in tow?

Seriously, do you think attendees of the BlissDom conference will mind if I confiscate their cameras just to make sure no shots of my behind are accidentally in the background? Oh, won't work? Bummer.

Love you, Alli

PS. I send out evites today to pick the lucky 75 women who will get to attend the BlissDom conference! Email me if you would love an evite.

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If you are Fighting the Frump with me, please leave your link in the comments! Sorry for my lack of Mr. Linky. It's on my list of things to fix! {grrrrrr} xoxo, A.

BPA, Dangerous Plastics, Boys Adrift, and Scarey Headlines

**I am reposting this from last October because of the FDA finally taking a look at the dangers of BPA {Bisphenol A}. BPA is a chemical in certain types of hard plastics. It is especially common in baby bottles. Please read this post & send to your friends! xoxo, Alli**

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I recently read a wonderful book by family physician, research psychologist, and best selling author Dr. Leonard Sax. His new book, Boys Adrift, answered many of the questions that many mothers of boys have. The most important one being, why in the world do today's boys and young men seem so unmotivated and uninterested in school? How could thing have changed so much in one generation? Why is this not happening in other western nations?

endocrine disruptors because our bodies read them as a hormone- ESTROGEN! Imagine if we purposely gave our sons excess estrogen?  Dr. Sax said,  "There is really a huge and rapidly-growing body of evidence now linking these endocrine disruptors, these environmental estrogens, to many of the phenomena I describe in the book: boys being less motivated, young men having more problems with erectile dysfunction, boys breaking their bones more easily than boys did a generation ago, and so forth." He also said that he prescribes more Viagra for men under 30 than he does for men over 40.

Dr. Sax identifies five factors that work together to put young boys at risk-

1. Changes in education over the past three decades. How has kindergarten changed? Thirty years ago, kindergarten was primarily about socialization. Typical activities then would have included finger-painting, singing in rounds, playing duck-duck-goose, etc. Not any more. Today, kindergarten is first and foremost about teaching literacy and learning basic arithmetic. In 2007, the kindergarten curriculum at most American schools, both public and private, looks very much like the first-grade curriculum of 1977. Nowadays, it’s all about learning to read and write. I have yet to find any replicable studies that prove early forced learning has any long-term benefit at all.

It’s a bad thing because girls’ and boys’ brains develop differently, and for many boys, it’s simply not developmentally appropriate to ask them to learn to read at age five. A distinguished team of 15 neuroscientists, based primarily at the National Institute of Mental Health in Bethesda, MD, recently published a remarkable account of the development of the human brain (see “Recommended Reading”). Since the early 1990s, these investigators have been doing MRI scans on young children’s brains. The team’s July 2007 report was its most definitive account yet. Among the most striking findings were the differences in the developmental trajectories of girls and boys. These researchers have found that the various regions of the brain develop in a different sequence and tempo in girls compared with boys.

It now appears that the brain’s language centers in many five-year-old boys look like the language centers in the brains of the average three-and-a-half-year-old girl. Have you ever tried to teach a three-year-old girl to read? It’s frustrating, both for the teacher and the child. It’s simply not developmentally appropriate, to use the jargon of early childhood educators. You’re asking a young girl to do something that her brain is just not yet ready to do.

Trying to teach many five-year-old boys to read and write may be just as inappropriate. These boys aren’t dumb, any more than three-year-old girls are dumb. Timing is everything—in education as in many other fields. It’s not enough to teach well. You have to do the right thing at the right time. Asking five-year-old boys to learn to read—when they’d rather be running around or playing games—may be the worst possible introduction to school, at least for some boys.

2. Video games. Recent scholarly work demonstrates clearly that some of the most popular video games are distracting boys from real-world pursuits. Many boys spend up to 5 hours a day (school-days) playing these supa-fab realistic games on plasma TVs. Of course, real life gets boring.

3. Medications for ADHD. Medications such as Adderall, Ritalin, Concerta, and Metadate, which are over prescribed, may be causing irreversible damage to the motivational centers of boys’ brains.

4. Endocrine disruptors. Environmental estrogens from plastic bottles and other sources may be throwing boys’ endocrine systems out of whack. Here is a quick intro. to the wonderful world of endocrine disruptors.

5. Devaluation of masculinity. Shifts in popular culture have transformed the role models of manhood. Forty years ago, we had Father Knows Best; today we have The Simpsons. Have y'all noticed that every commercial and sit-com shows the father as a big doofus, and mom being the all-knowing boss? This is especially true for those "kiddie cartoons" on the Disney Channel and Nickelodeon. Every kid is a smartypants genius and the parents are all idiots. I don't allow any of these shows, except Hannah Montana. That one is OK. Sorry, off on a tangent.....Where's my Ritalin? Just kidding!

Any mother of a son over 10 can tell many stories of boys, her own or not, who seem absolutely hostile to school, obsessed with his video games, and lacks a strong connection with an adult male role- models (Father, Coach, etc...) Many times, these boys are put on ADD "academic steroids" medication and a general listlessness takes over. It is this sort of 'common sense observations' which made the book resonate with me.

Here are a few quick facts-

  • The United States has about 5% of the world's population but consumes about 90% of the total global production of ADHD medications such as Adderall, Ritalin, Concerta, and Metadate. (Please see chapter 4 of Boys Adrift for more facts and figures about the overdiagnosis and over-prescribing of medications for ADHD in the United States.)
  • In some suburban schools, more than half of the boys are being treated with medications for ADHD."Boys in 2007 are thirty times more likely to be taking these medications compared with boys in 1987," Sax writes. He notes the distressing new research indicating that even low doses of these drugs permanently alter the nucleus accumbens, an area of the brain associated with motivation.
  • Certain types of plastics (BPa) leach chemicals into our food and water. There actually are a number of studies which show that substances found in common plastics can act as estrogens in animals and can even decrease those animal's testosterone levels and sperm production. The estrogens effect the male brain differently, by attacking the brain centers that affect motivation. In females, this brain center is not effected. Excess estrogen cause early onset puberty. It's not the hormones in meat, peoples, it's estrogen mimic chemicals that leach out of PBa plastics!
  • This increase in estrogen in women not only causes early onset puberty, but puts women at an increased risk of developing breast cancer.
  • Over the last 20 years during which we've seen an acceleration and intensification of the early elementary curriculum, there has been an explosion in the number of kids, especially boys, being diagnosed with attention-deficit disorder. Hmmmm!
  • He points out that Finland, which doesn't start education until age 7, has some of the highest test scores in the world.
  • In public schools, not so much in the elite private schools, recess has been cut back. There's less music, less art, less physical education, and more reading drills, writing drills, and arithmetic exercises. (This is often done in an ill-advised way to ensure more federal funding.) When you turn elementary school into year-round test-prep, you will see test scores rise. But that improvement comes at a price. Some students, especially boys, tune out. They lose interest. They no longer read for fun. (See chapter 2 of Boys Adrift for documentation of the lower propensity of boys to read for fun today compared with 1980.)

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Because I aim to please......

My Dr. Oz post

Pass on the Plastic from Blissfully Domestic

The Boys Adrift Website

A wonderful podcast interview with Dr. Sax complete with Q&A call-ins!

A Washington Post Op-Ed by Dr. Sax

National Review interview with Dr. Sax

Read this about what endocrine disruptors do to your body.

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Alarmed about plastics? Join the club....

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As a quick rule of thumb- Look at the recycling codes on the bottom of all your plastics. The code inside the three recycling arrows are important.

Here is what I know about what brands (sippy cups/bottles) use the type of plastic that leaches PBa's-

Unsafe plastics-

#3- PVC

#6-PS

#7-Polycarbonate {the jury is still out on this one}

Look for-

#1-PETE

#2-HDPE

#4-LDPE

#5-PP

BPA is in the canned food liners and plastic utensils. Be careful.

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Love to you all,

Alli

Black Mold, all-u-can-eat bacon & Condescending Lies

Unemployment, losing our dream house, homelessness, bed rest and birth of our fifth baby and death in the family. We have been through it all in the past 9 months. Remember when I bragged about how being so happy that our lives were all settled and happy? Darn me and my bragging! Pride goes before a fall, remember?

The other shoe fell. We evacuated our rental house. Why you ask? Well, hold your sides, get ready to laugh.....wait for it....wait........Toxic 'Black' Mold is infesting the house.

So, after we moved in , I started thinking the house must have been flooded. I couldn't scrub through the grime on the linoleum. The floor air vents were all rusted onto the linoleum, the bottom of the kitchen cabinets showed signs of severe water damage and when I walked around in the kitchen I noticed the flooring underneath was um, soft. Yes, soft like it was rotting under the linoleum.

We called the maintenance company and I told the handyman my concerns. He pulled out the fridge and I swear that old man almost passed out. The handyman was one of those old dudes that has seen it all. He said, "oh no, you need to get that tested!" and promptly left the house wiley-coyote style. Two weeks later we had a man come do air sample & swab tests for the nasty strains. Lucky us, we had it!

Here are pictures from behind the fridge. Sorry about the bad lighting. I can not take a decent picture!

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The water line is dripping. It probably has been dripping for years since the fridge was put in.

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The fact that the management company didn't notice this when the previous tenets moved out boggles my mind! I noticed today that old damage had been painted over and some pieces of linoleum under the fridge were replaced. So this must have been an issue for a long time.

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OK now see the corner of the cabinets right there? In the next picture you can see what the floor looks like beneath it.

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So I went to take photos today, the dudes working has the room sealed off with plastic, but ripped the "protective shield" down for me to inspect. {faints} I later got horrid headache and I swear my nose, lips and tongue have felt tingly and numb ever since. Weird, I know. Hopefully I won't grow a tail or extra ear on my forehead!

I worry about those workers' health. They spoke Spanish and their English was iffy. They had no masks on and no gloves. I wonder if the men have any idea how much dangerthey are in. Also, the plastic "barrier" they had up was unzipped so the spores are all through the house and all over my stuff.

I got the owner of the mold removal company on the phone, and when I pushed for answers he proceeded to be condescending and tell me there were no laws governing how it is done and not to bother getting the health dept. involved. I learned later that the Health Dept. will come and declare the home uninhabitable.

By the way, you want to make me angry? Talk to me in a condescending and disrespectful way. I called him on it and he seemed to straighten up. I said, "Listen, my husband and I were just evacuated from the home where we live. We have 5 children, one of whom is 4 months old. I don't think you need to handle my phone call in such an adversarial tone." You would think the third party mold cleanup dude would've been nice, right? The whole thing was just so bizarre!

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So we are all holed up here in a Holiday Inn Express, paid for by the management company. I may or may not be going crazy staying here with the boys. Did you know a family of 7 breaks the fire code? We do. Luckily no one who works here is a stickler. The employees are kind, even when my boys eat hundreds of dollars in free breakfast. MMMmmmm, all you can eat bacon.

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Tomorrow, the floor will get ripped up and we will know more. As of now we have been told so many crazy things.

When Hubs told the property manager (P.M.) of the mold issue-

  • P.M- "Black mold? Impossible. It can only grow where there is feces present."

~~umm, wha...what?~~~

  • P.M.- "Mrs. Worthington, good news we have the tests back. It looks great. We'll have you back in the home soon.
  • Me- "Really, no toxic strains were found? It was just regular mold?"
  • P.M.- "Well, um little bit, but really, it was just mostly mildew. No big deal."

~~the man hadn't even seen it at that point!~~

  • Me- "Well, we are not moving back in to a house full of mold."
  • P.M.-"Oh, it is an easy fix. I had this issue with another property. No problem."

The very same day he told Hubs that he has never ever seen this! Took him by surprise.

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Where did I turn for help today? Twitter! So many friends have rallied and a fellow blogger, who is an attorney, is advising me. I dare not link her, in case she wants to keep it private. Once again my friends on the Internet have given us a big virtual hug. I am so grateful and lucky!

There is so much more to the story. I'm too tired now. My tongue is still swelling and I feel horrible after being around it today. I'm off to bed.

Sorry, I haven't done my normal Life Doesn't Suck & Fight the Frump entries. Life is just so crazy to stay on topic. My posts will probably be filled will tales of woe this week. So come join me & watch the train wreck that is the latest Fussypants drama. LOL.

I'll bring my camera and I'll bring you along with us, K?

Love you immensely, Alli

 

They awakened the sleeping giant

This week has been one of the most emotional I have had in years. Many of you know from twitter that my family lost a member unexpectedly. My Father-in-Law was in a car accident and passed away. As I type, Mark and I and all the kids are piled up in the car, driving 10 hours to his mother's home.

Also, I have been wrapped up in comforting the children and my husband all while tweaking the beast that is the Blissfully Domestic relaunch and handling the continued loose ends.

I was worried about my friends in the Gulf as Gustav bore down and gave very little thought to the Republican convention. I was a Romney supporter (remember when Obama, Oprah & I went to Iowa?) and I planned on reluctantly voting McCain. Then, something happened that awakened my dormant political interests.

Sarah Palin happened. The pig pile of personal attacks by the media establishment and feminist leaders I used to have respect for happened. The vicious rumors, attacks and lies that are directed at her are appalling.

I believe the viciousness will intensify as we get closer to election day. I have officially come in the game from the sidelines. Let me apologize upfront to all my Liberal readers. I love my Liberal sisters and pray we all can discuss politics and our views and avoid the vicious personal attacks some use to bully others into submission. Many of the wonderful women who work at Blissfully Domestic are strong Democrats and I value opinions from both sides. However, I for one, am disgusted by the treatment of Palin. It will back fire and will help put McCain and Palin in the White House. I just hope she has the strength to plow through what the media has in store for her.

I am so interested to get you in on the discussion. If you don't mind, please speak up in the comment section. Are you Republican, Democrat or Libertarian? Have you always been interested in politics or is it a recent interest? Could you not care less? I am so exited to here from you.

 

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"Win the election? UR doin' it right!"

Life_doesnt_suck_says_fuss_10 Sarah Palin is the reason that this Thursday Life doesn't suck as much as I thought! Join in and add your reason that life doesn't suck in the comment section!

Love, Alli

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